It’s true, nothing changes if nothing actually changes. Often we get so caught up in complaining about an issue or situation, that we forget we can do something about it.
It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and caught in loop and forget that we often have the ability to changes the aspects of our lives we’re not happy with. I’m not saying change is easy, I’m not saying that won’t try and fail… but the power of change is almost always something you have. In order to achieve and progress we often have to “bite the bullet” and take a step in any direction.
It sounds scary but in all honesty life is meant to be a little scary, no progress comes from living a life of sameness. If making a big change is frightening, start with smaller steps, start with smaller decisions and break down the ultimate goal into smaller bite sized chunks.
Things you should stop:
Being Unhealthy. If you’ve acknowledged that you’re unhealthy and should change… why don’t you? Don’t allow previous failings in terms of diet and fitness dictate your future behaviours. Don’t tolerate it, if bothers you, change it.
Negativity. Negativity is like the common cold, it’s catchy. Don’t tolerate other people’s negative attitudes, and don’t tolerate your own. If you, or someone else is having a particularly negative moment or conversation acknowledge it as being negative and move on…
Disorganisation. Don’t let disorganisation act as a barrier to achieving. Saying over and over “I don’t have time to…” isn’t going to always cut it. Get more organised by creating schedules and habits which help give you the time to do the things you want to. Imagine looking back in years to coming realising that do missed out of things simply because you weren’t organised enough.
Worrying about everyone’s opinion AND worrying about sharing yours with others. I’ve wasted so much time and energy over the years worry about other people and their opinions of me. The moment I started trying to let go of focusing on other peoples opinions was moment I started to feel more like myself. Focusing on what others think about you is time consuming and draining, and largely a really inaccurate guessing game.
Chronic stress. It seems more and more people nowadays live with high levels of anxiety, stress and fatigue. There’s almost that constant feeling of things being out of control. There’s no one answer for moving past this, it comes down to a combination of realising what’s important doing what’s best for you and becoming organised… what needs to be done now verse what can be done later.
Coveting Thy Neighbours Goods. It’s natural to want what others have, it’s natural to compare and measure ourselves against others too. We measure our success in life based on what others around us are achieving and milestones they’ve hit. It pays to remember though, that happiness doesn’t steam from possessions and we can’t measure ourselves against others because we never truly have full insight into what’s happening in someone’s life.
Outward appearances can be deceiving and things won’t actually make you happy.
Thinking that perfect exists. Stop beating yourself up, perfect doesn’t exist and you shouldn’t be upset with yourself for being human. Instead of focusing perfection, which is unachievable, simply do the best you possibly can and call it a day. Focus on your achievements rather than perfection.
A job that you hate. If you work a 40 hour week you spend more awake at work (I would hope) than you do anywhere else. Imagine spending so much of your waking life in a job you hate.
Always examine what you tolerate and allow to happen, because what you allow is exactly what will continue.